tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883575980086212146.post4469667633903770325..comments2024-03-28T02:47:41.111-05:00Comments on Smoke & Mirrors: Literary Wives #18Lynn @ Smoke & Mirrorshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00464153596817995684noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883575980086212146.post-43471221220213858192015-12-07T16:27:46.464-06:002015-12-07T16:27:46.464-06:00Yes, but I think Winnie was continuing in the &quo...Yes, but I think Winnie was continuing in the "Chinese way" of not revealing the truth and just dealing with whatever was currently in your world. At least that's how I interpreted it. Plus, as your children age, the dynamics of the relationship shift and change somewhat. And really, there never seems to be enough time with my own sons. They're all busy working and raising children, and dealing with their own marital relationships. In talking with friends, I think this is more the norm than not? It just seems difficult to be able to discuss all you would like to discuss. :) I was so happy Winnie and Pearl finally connected in this way! :)Lynn @ Smoke & Mirrorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00464153596817995684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883575980086212146.post-14914513778617634272015-12-07T16:23:08.891-06:002015-12-07T16:23:08.891-06:00Wow...I can't imagine using "silence"...Wow...I can't imagine using "silence" as a weapon. I'm relatively certain I would be incapable of that! LOL :) I felt so very sorry for Winnie and virtually all the women in that culture/society. :(Lynn @ Smoke & Mirrorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00464153596817995684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883575980086212146.post-36686623364824018072015-12-07T10:57:33.832-06:002015-12-07T10:57:33.832-06:00The biggest question I have about all the secrets ...The biggest question I have about all the secrets is why Winnie didn't want to tell her children about her past. Obviously, she wouldn't have wanted to get into the gory details, but I don't think they knew anything about her previous marriage, did they? She was probably trying to protect them somehow, but in the end, I think, Pearl appreciates knowing the story and finds she can understand her mother more, and some of her ways that used to perplex her. <br />I agree with Emily - nice review! Naomihttp://consumedbyink.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883575980086212146.post-28432334044273199292015-12-07T09:39:00.673-06:002015-12-07T09:39:00.673-06:00Nice review! Your exploration of abuse and marriag...Nice review! Your exploration of abuse and marriage reminded me of a podcast I heard a few weeks ago about a woman who stopped speaking to her husband for some 20 years before he died because he had cheated on her and abused her. She refused to engage with it, and in her own way, her silence became a way of fighting back. It was fascinating!Emily Petersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06269138010907551956noreply@blogger.com