Saturday, September 15, 2018

Top Ten Tuesday for September 11!

Here are previous Smoke & Mirrors Top Ten Tuesday posts.
This meme was created by The Broke and the Bookish and hosted by that site until
January 2018 when That Artsy Reader Girl took on the hosting duties!

Today's theme for Top Ten Tuesday is HIDDEN GEMS!
This is one of my favorite topics! 
Those little-known favorite reads that I feel deserve to be Pulitzer Prize winners! :)

These are in no particular order...'cause there's no way I could prioritize this listing!
I am hopeless in that regard, especially with books I consider to be favorite reads!

One of the first books that comes to mind is 
A White Wind Blew (released February 6, 2013) 
by James Markert.
Having lived in the US midwest, I was amazed 
to read this book and learn of the 
Waverly Hills Tuberculosis Sanitorium 
in Louisville, Kentucky. I had no idea!
Oh, but this book is so very much more than that!
Markert includes so much history in this one book!
I love historical fiction and this is nearly perfect 
execution of that genre, in my humble opinion!
Dr. Wolfgang Pike and his wife are just two of 
the best defined characters I've known!
There is so very much that Markert includes 
that was so pertinent to the times:
prejudice/discrimination/lynchings,
bigger-than-life underworld villains and criminals, death/dying, recovery and rehabilitation, music/music therapy smuggling, love, romance, and commitment to faith. All this in an extremely readable and enjoyable book! 
And I obviously have not been keeping up with favorite authors' newest releases, 'cause there are now 3 more books authored by Markert and released since this one:
What Blooms from Dust (released July 26, 2018)
All Things Bright and Strange (released January 30, 2018)
The Angels' Share (released January 17, 2017)

The School of Essential Ingredients (released January 22, 2009) by Erica Bauermeister is the second book. 
While working at Borders for 4 1/2 years this was one 
of the few books I regularly recommended. 
Anyone I've ever known who read this book has at least enjoyed it a lot, but for most it became one of their "favorite reads"! 
That says so very much about this book...
Erica spoke with my book club on the phone during our discussion, and that made it so very special. She was quite forthcoming regarding her writing process and discussing her next book, Joy for Beginners (released June 9, 2011). 

The book club I facilitate also read the sequel 
to TSoEI, 
The Lost Art of Mixing (released January 24, 2013). 
And we were just as enamored with it!
It is Erica's use of language that sets her apart, in my opinion! As noted in my Goodreads review of TSoEI, 
"I smell, see, and hear as I read her words." 
I found that what she did for food in TSoEI, 
she was able to do for numbers in TLAoM. 
Unbelievable use of language to activate the senses! 
And such well-drawn enjoyable characters!
I just can't recommend her books highly enough!
And...per Goodreads, it looks as if she has a fourth book due to be released May 21, 2019--The Scent Keeper
I love it when my favorite authors have upcoming releases!
Don't you?!? :)

Now for something a bit more intense and perhaps pertinent to our current world situation, particularly in the United States, given the current political 'ruling party'...
The Boat People by Sharon Bala
I really like this BookPage review which gives 
a good brief summary of the book.
Goodreads classifies this as historical fiction 
based in Canada.
I have no idea how accurately this depiction may be with regard to Canadian immigration procedures, 
but there were definitely issues and situations 
which rang true given my experiences processing 
visa applications/renewals for employees. 
A researcher from Russia was very upset that her 
visa renewal was being delayed due to the federal agency's need to further research/verify her background. 
(And this was way before 9/11 
and the more restricted visa process in the aftermath!)
She had been in the US in the same position for at least 6-7 years at this point in time and was livid, finally shouting that it was impossible to verify anything anyway, since there were virtually no written record kept of much of anything in her home country!
Prior to that incident it had never occurred to me that other countries simply may not have the same ability to capture documentation or to organize information.
I think I always assumed other countries did things the same way as was done in the US!
Not necessarily... I mention this because I felt Bala's depiction of just such a situation--lack of documentation/facts to either refute or confirm asylum-seekers' claims--was spot on. 
There really is no viable way to verify these claims, is there? 
I greatly appreciated Grace's predicament. I felt it obvious that she was appointed to her position with the intent that she would deny most asylum-seekers' requests for entry. 
This, combined with the lack of actual facts regarding these people's lives in their home countries, and the increasing pressures of her personal life in dealing with her mother and children, etc. I had great empathy for her! I believe this book is so valuable for presenting many different perspectives to the whole immigration question...


One of my favorite 
books of all time is 
Jam! On the Vine 
by 
LaShonda Katrice Barnett.
I feel as if this book has been hugely overlooked and underrated! 
For more details, please click on the title above as it is linked to my two-part review/blog post.



(Yes, you read that correctly! I was unable to curb my enthusiasm into only one blog post!) 
There is so very much packed into this one book! 
If historical fiction is your thing, this one should prove enjoyable, 
if not also on your own list of favorite reads! 
Have you heard of the Red Summer of 1919? 
I had not...until I read this book!

Pieces of Happiness: A Novel of Friendship, Hope and Chocolate by Anne Østby
Firstly, thank you to the publisher for a free copy of this book as a member of the Keep Turning Pages Goodreads group! There was much more to this book than I expected.
Many different issues challenge these five women, yet they manage to work together and cooperate to help one another resolve whatever situation arises.
I don't know which of these five characters I sympathized and empathized with more, but I think probably Sina is the one I had the most respect for in some ways. And poor Lisbeth, 
what a shock she had regarding her husband's lack of fidelity and her former good friend. 
I could perhaps most relate to Maya, after having cared for my own mother as her health declined. Definitely a scary situation... I adored the descriptions of processing chocolate into candy, the island natives, and the tropical landscape. Made me long to travel there! 

Girl on the Leeside by Kathleen Anne Kenney
Ms. Kenney is a writer for whom the landscape 
becomes a character, in my opinion. 
And as I mentioned in the Goodreads review, 
I seem to always be enthralled by a setting in either 
Ireland or Scotland! It is true...and this book was no exception to that tendency!
This novel contained twists and turns 
that made me recognize each character's foibles 
as well as positive attributes. 
And what I specifically appreciated was 
the fact that the story arc was totally believable. 
I can easily imagine making the same decision Kee made, particularly given the rather solitary environment 
of rural Ireland. It would be a tough life 
for him to suddenly serve as main caregiver to his niece. 
I do believe it is never a good idea to hide the truth, especially from a child about her/his family, however...

Orphans of the Carnival by Carol Birch
I admit I was not particularly enamored with this book 
while reading it, but it has certainly stuck with me in the aftermath! I never cease to be amazed by 
how inhumane humans can be toward one another. 
Julia's life is a prime example of this.
I wish I had been aware this was historical fiction 
based upon a real person's life. 
Perhaps the issue most impressed upon my mind 
by this book is the idea of a marriage 
based upon an economic relationship: 
for example, Sonny and Cher and Celine Dion and Rene. 
In both marriages the male was the 
"manager" for his spouse. 
I think the general public always wonders how much of the relationship is based upon true love 
and how much might be influenced by monetary gain...
Though I do believe Theo did truly love Julia.
I just wish humans would learn to accept other humans. The fact that someone looks differently from the majority, doesn't mean they should be forced to become "sideshow" acts to make a living! We are all unique...some just look moreso than others!

Gemini,Oxygen, and Healer by Carol Cassella

 I can highly recommend all three of Carol's books. 
(Yes, I can call her by her first name since I have met her...a couple of times!) 
She is an anesthesiologist and I find the medical information/details she includes 
to be very informative as well as fascinating. 
I loaned all three to my best friend who is a Nurse Practitioner and she really liked them all. 
The book club I facilitate read Gemini and each member was fascinated by it. 
Just click on her website which is linked to her name for a summary of each of these books.
She is one of the very nicest, most sincere authors I have ever met!
She is someone I would like to call "friend"... :)

I met Dwight Ritter, author of Growin' Up White: A Novel
at the Christamore House Guild's Book Author Luncheon 
in Indianapolis, Indiana. If you are ever in Indianapolis in April and 
you enjoy reading and meeting and/or speaking with authors, 
you should attend this event! It is unique and the venue, 
the Indiana Roof Ballroom, is one of the most impressive venues...ever, in my opinion! 
And all money over and above cost is donated to 
the Christamore House located just west of the IUPUI campus 
in downtown Indianapolis. This event funds college scholarships for students in the area. So your money is going to a very good cause. What's not to like?!? Ah, but I digress...
This book is one of the best books I've read. Period! Not just due to the subject matter and themes, but especially due to the writing. These characters jump off the page into your life!
I respect Ritter on so many levels, not the least of which is that he has maintained control of his manuscript by self-publishing, even though that means he must shoulder the responsibility of all his own merchandising and public relations. There is no publishing company to book events, etc., but he wants total control and I can understand that!
Do yourself a favor and read this!

Okay, The Art of Racing in the Rain may not necessarily qualify as a "hidden gem," given that it has almost 400,000 ratings on Goodreads, but I believe the author, Garth Stein, does! As well as his most recent adult fiction book, 
A Sudden Light. Having met him, I can tell you he is one of the most passionate and enthusiastic among authors with whom I have spoken! He seems to have an endless supply of energy and is humorous and sincere. He is also a musician! 
A Sudden Light has stayed 'in my head' 
over the almost four years since I read it. 
Now that is a book that has really made an impression! 
The Art of Racing in the Rain is one of my absolute favorite reads ever! (Soon to be a movie!)
Every member of the book club I facilitate adored it as well!

And I have yet to purchase the 
"young reader" version of TAoRitR, 
Racing in the Rain: My Life as a Dog
I need to do so. Not only so I can read it,
but then I can send it on to my grandchildren.
When I met Garth, he was preparing for the release of Enzo Races in the Rain
a children's picture book. 

He was so excited!!

And now he has three more:

Enzo and the Christmas Tree Hunt!

Enzo's Very Scary Halloween

Enzo and the Fourth of July Races

(I have no idea why these images will not align as I wish them to do! But so be it!)

Happy Reading!!
--Lynn

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

A bit more romance-y than I usually read...

by Elizabeth Peters

Fortunately, following bilateral knee joint replacement last summer, 
I discovered Community Healthplex here in Indianapolis. 
This facility has the only heated therapy pool in the city with group classes 
and individual medically supervised exercise (MRE) programs.
And now...it has a lending library and a new book club! Whoo! Whoo!

This is the second book 
I have borrowed from that library. 
I did not know until just now that 
Elizabeth Peters and Barbara Michaels 
are pseudonyms used by Barbara Mertz!
She died in 2013 at the age of 85.
This particular book is the second in her 
Vicky Bliss Murder Mystery series of 6 novels 
and was published in 1978. 
It was simply a bit too romance-y for me, 
though I did find the mystery rather compelling. 
I felt the characterization was a bit shallow, 
lacking true depth. 

Though I would say I enjoyed reading this book, certainly not enough 
to purposefully seek out others in the series.

I did rather enjoy the interplay between Vicky and John. 
But I did wonder at his valiant rescues when he was really one of the criminals...
Vicky and I are built nothing alike, as she complains that
...it isn't easy to convince people that you've got a brain when all they can see are curves and flowing blonde hair. (4)
I personally would have no idea about that! :) She continues,
When people look at me, all they see is a blown-up centrefold. Nobody takes me seriously.
When I was younger, I wanted to be little and cuddly and cute. 
Now I'd settle for being flat-chested and myopic. 
It would save a lot of wear and tear on my nerves. (4)
She meets with a police official regarding a dead body 
that had been discovered...
He kissed my hand...I enjoy having my hand kissed. 
I can't imagine why American men haven't taken it up, it gets even us feminists. (10)
That did make me chuckle.

Vicky is sent to investigate this man's murder for the museum and with her travel plans made, all that was left was to select lodging.
It didn't take me long to decide. People on expense accounts don't stay in pensions or hotels. 
It wouldn't look good. I felt I owed it to my employer to check into the best hotel in town. (17)
That did elicit yet another chuckle from me!

Although Vicky believes herself to be a whiz-bang investigator, she really isn't all that tricky, and unfortunately for her, John is immediately on to her. 
Though he does end up rescuing her later. As they run from one room in a cellar, two of the criminals run into it and John uses the excuse of needing to make sure they are completely silent to kiss her...
His lips and tongue blocked my mouth just as effectively as the gag had done--and a lot more distractingly. In its inception, it was a purely practical kiss; he had to shut me up, without a second's delay, for Antonio and Giorgio burst into the room we had just left. Their voices sounded as if they were only a few feet away, but it was clear from my companion's behaviour that they could not see us, though they could hear us as easily as I could hear them. 
My eyes were still blindfolded,...and as that crazy embrace continued, 
I became less able to concentrate on essentials. As kisses go, it was memorable. 
After I started to cooperate--which, I am ashamed to admit, occurred almost immediately--his participation became less practical and more enthusiastic. (43)
These were the best parts of this book, in my humble opinion.

The mystery had twists and turns, with an ultimate betrayal at the end, 
though admittedly, I did have it figured out.
I would recommend this book and/or series if you really wanted a mystery 
that leaned toward cozy and felt a bit like a romance novel.

Have you read any of the books in this series?

I did read one of the Amelia Peabody mysteries years ago and enjoyed it, 
though for some reason it didn't interest me enough to continue reading 
more in that series.

Happy reading!!
--Lynn

Friday, August 10, 2018

Beyond the customary Italian vehicle...

by Alexander McCall Smith
Fortunately, following bilateral knee joint replacement last summer, 
I discovered Community Healthplex here in Indianapolis. 
This facility has the only heated therapy pool in the city with group classes 
and individual medically supervised exercise (MRE) programs.
Additionally, they have virtually any equipment you can imagine to exercise!
And now, thanks to one of the long-time members, there is a lending library. 
And that is where I discovered this "new-to-me" stand-alone novel! 
Thanks to that same member, there is also a brand new book club,  
the first meeting of which was held on Friday, August 10th!
'Cause, you know, I need yet another book club in which to participate! :)

Becky Anderson's interview with Alexander McCall Smith 
about My Italian Bulldozer.

Let me just begin by saying that Alexander McCall Smith is 

one of my absolutely favorite authors! 
I adore his No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency series
his Isabel Dalhousie and the Sunday Philosophy Club series
his Corduroy Mansion seriesand the stand-alone novels I have read. 
I really should get started purchasing, reading, and reviewing his children's books
so I can then gift them to my grandchildren. 
I will admit that although I have read the first three installments in his Von Igelfeld series
I found those to be a bit too dry for my taste. 
I did rather recently read the first in the 44 Scotland Street series and felt 
I didn't connect with it nearly as well as with the first three series listed above. 
But I digress...

This book did involve romance to a great degree and yet not in the typical 

"boy meets girl, boy gets girl" way!
I found this story to be much more realistic without bogging down. 

In attempting to help Paul deal with the departure of his live-in girlfriend of four years, 

his "editor," Gloria states:
...it's not your fault. Fault doesn't come into it. (5)
It is at this point that Paul realizes
[Gloria is] one of his closest friends, in a rather curious, slightly old-fashioned way. 
Dependable Gloria...always there, always positive. (4)
Smith does an excellent job of depicting the great confusion and indecisiveness 
that can result in the aftermath of such a relationship breakup. 
Paul is definitely NOT an extremely self-assured person overall, 
and dealing with your partner 'running off' with her personal trainer 
destroys whatever equilibrium and self-confidence he may have had... 
Paul considers all those same questions as most of us do in such situations:
What did I do wrong? What did I not do? 
How did I succeed in allowing and/or motivating 
my long-term partner to simply abscond with someone else?
And, finally...why?!? Why? Why? Why?
AmIright? ;)

It is her advice and suggestion he follows regarding the completion of his 10th book, 

Paul Stuart's Tuscan Table.
Yes, his 10th book! Obviously, he has been quite successful!
To the point at which he now employs a part-time researcher 
so he can spend more time actually writing and less reading/searching for information.
Gloria suggests that he actually travel to Italy to get him out of his usual routine 
and so he can totally immerse himself in completing this manuscript 
which is already somewhat overdue to the publisher. 
Gloria makes all his travel arrangements and off he goes!
Though all does not go well upon his arrival...

I fully admit that I rarely laugh out loud while reading one of Smith's books, 
though I spend much time amused, smiling and chuckling to myself...
And that was exactly my reaction as I read of Paul's arrival in Italy and the way 
he was tricked by the clerk working at the rental car company into 
being accused of and arrested for stealing a rental car that he was unable to locate!! 
And so had never even seen! And here is a good lesson in being kind and congenial to strangers.      If not for the man he had met on his way to Italy, 
he might never have seen the light of day again! Or at least not for a long time! 
Be that as it may, the Professor rescues him and 
Paul is released from jail with no accusations to face. 
Additionally, the Professor hooks him up with his friend Claudio who owns and runs a vehicle rental business himself. Though he currently has no more cars to rent, 
he does have just one vehicle left...a...b-b-b-b-bulldozer!
And implausible as it may seem, Paul ends up driving a bulldozer through the Italian countryside! I personally found it a tiny bit unbelievable that someone totally 
unfamiliar with such heavy equipment was able to operate this machine at all, 
let alone maneuvering it without incident! Although I suppose it is possible...
And Paul was able to go where he pleased.

As with most Smith books, of course, the protagonist ends up meeting 
thoughtful, kind, and generous folks! 
Although Paul ends up breaking the law for the first time in his life just to 
maneuver a parking space for his bulldozer once he arrives at his final destination.

He meets Anna and begins to realize that even if Becky 
had not run off with her personal trainer, 
...he thought it likely that they would have drifted apart; the magic, the chemistry, the spark--
those ingredients that had provided the seasoning for their relationship--had begun to fade...
Love was a souffle that could only too easily collapse and could rarely be revived. (168)
Ah, yes...so true! And now that he had met a person like Anna,
...tactful, intelligent...who could excite him intellectually... (168)
in a way Becky never did... 
Well, he just didn't see himself ever being happy with someone like Becky ever again! 

And, as so often happens, he discovers that a person with whom he would like to 
spend time and perhaps initiate a relationship with 
is not so far removed from his daily life after all!

Just another brilliantly and simply written feel-good novel by McCall Smith! 

So glad I read it!
What have you read lately that left you feeling good? Or at least better?

Happy reading!
--Lynn

Sunday, August 5, 2018

Literary Wives #34


   

First Love by Gwendoline Riley
I admit to being mostly bored by this novel.
I am glad it was short, though I had to force myself
to finish reading it and I admit the last half went 
much more quickly for me than the first half. 
There is little to no plot and very little action, 
and while I typically read for characterization 
and enjoy books describing relationships, 
I just didn't connect with these characters. 
Perhaps I wasn't in the mood to read about 
another totally dysfunctional and dissatisfying marriage relationship? Or perhaps it hit a bit too close 
to home for me, having experienced 
 a rather similar long-term relationship... 
Perhaps a combination of these reasons and more? 
I don't know. 
I would say this was a rather bleak read overall for me.

I did feel sympathy/empathy for Neve. I don't believe she had any idea what she really wanted out of life nor did she appear to have much motivation to change her life. And from what little is revealed of her family life as a child, this was, perhaps, understandable. Neve, her brother, and her mother, were all scared of her father. There wasn't much detailed description of his specific actions (at least that I can recall), but he was evidently at least physically abusive. Neve's brother quit visiting their father at age fifteen when his father punched him in the face. Though Neve was expected to continue visiting for another year to "keep the peace," according to her mother. It was during this time that her father commented to his friend, Con, 
 Women just aren't naturally clean, are they? (43)
I only note this quote because Edwyn seemed obsessed with criticizing Neve about her lack of cleanliness. He just continued where her father had left off. :( As a young adult, she finally informed her father she was no longer interested in a relationship with him. I totally understood and agreed with her, but isn't it sad that he didn't love her enough to try to get along with his own daughter? 

Her mother was apparently the queen of landing herself in abusive relationships with men. She appeared to be quite the 'flake,' in my opinion, and definitely very little positive influence upon Neve, but rather a role model of mostly negative characteristics and behaviors. She could not understand all the fuss regarding sexual assult: 
Back in the seventies every girl was gripped, groped and raped, said she, lifting her chin,
her accent getting coarser... I was raped, when I was university, I was more or less raped in
Liverpool when I first moved back. It didn't ruin my life. Why do they always have to say, 
Ooh, it ruined my life? And everything I went through with your father, I mean, 
if that didn't ruin my life, why are they saying their lives are ruined? (87)
Having been a teenage female in the seventies, I could rather understand this mindset, though unlike Neve's mother, I am thrilled to see those who assault others over whom they have power held accountable for their crimes. (Too bad this doesn't seem to be the case for our current POTUS...)

Of her parents Neve comments...
Time doesn't help. You forget, for years, even, but it's still there. A zone of feeling. A cold shade.
I barely drink now, but when I do, sometimes I see so clearly how nothing's changed. 
Not one thing. About who I am and what I am. I don't have to be drunk. 
When I least expect it, my instincts are squalid, my reactions are squalid, vengeful. 
And for what? What am I so outraged by?...My parents were hopeless. And?
Helpless, as we all are. Life is appalling. My father ate himself to death. Isn't that enough? (121)
I do agree. We are all helpless in different areas and to varying degrees. But I can also commiserate with her inability to 'let it go' sometimes. Especially with regard to our parents. A meme I saw the other day:
Adulthood: the years spent getting over your childhood!
Neve does admit to having spent fifteen years drinking until she vomited and/or passed out very often. Awaking in a strange place with a 'stranger' or in her own bed/bedroom with a stranger. She definitely did have a "drinking problem" prior to moving in with and marrying Edwyn. I really wanted to know exactly how they met, but unless I missed it, that information was never given.

Edwyn, Neve's husband, definitely exhibited passive/agressive and verbally abusive behaviors. I personally felt he could basically be diagnosed with a mental illness. He mentions several times that he is constantly "in pain" and has a heart condition, having suffered a heart attack in the past. However, I felt he was using this as an excuse for his behavior and/or to evoke sympathy from Neve. He kept haranguing to Neve about the one night (Not the first of more-than-one night, but the only ONE!) she got very drunk and evidently vomited in virtually every room of the house once they arrived home. The descriptions of his physical maneuvering of her body during that night indicated he had basically tossed her body around with little regard to her drunken condition or safety. I always felt as if physical abuse was a definite possibility when he would become cantankerous and uncooperative. Edwyn used criticism and derogatory descriptors (e.g. "cunt"-a word which I personally abhor) to abuse Neve. I think what bothered me most about him was the randomness of such tirades, much as one who would physically abuse the other person. Much like her own mother had always done with their father, initially in her marriage, Neve would "simper" and say anything to try to appease Edwyn, though many times it was impossible to do so. (Another behavior exhibited by physical abusers.) Though eventually Neve did learn not to apologize all the time and try so hard to appease--to respond less often. In considering her treatment of Edwyn, Neve rather regrets or perhaps feels a bit guilty about "managing him, in a way." 
Beyond bringing him out of himself, or my genuine interest; that I was maintaining this keen 
and appreciative front as a way to keep him calm, or to distract him. Like--I don't know--throwing
some sausages at a guard dog. This was someone I was supposed to be close to. 
And wouldn't he be horrified if he knew that was how I saw it? 
His scorn would finish us both, I was sure...I was very much without bearings, that first year. (109)

But then Neve also described times that Edwyn was particularly kind and caring in his physical and verbal treatment of her. For example, their pet names for each other: Mrs. Pusskins and Mrs. Pusskins. I admit I almost gagged when I read that! I might use "sweetie" or "honey," but that's the extent of my pet name vocabulary!  

The one thing that struck me in this relationship was Edwyn's insistence that Neve NOT kiss him. He didn't like to kiss and became especially angry at her for trying to initiate a kiss. Wow. This brought back memories of my first husband. I will never forget walking up to him one of the first days after I moved in with him and hugging and kissing him. He literally stumbled backward as if shocked, asking me, "What are you doing?" I replied, "I'm just hugging and kissing you!" He explained that he had NEVER had anyone just walk up to him at any time in his life and do that. Nor had he ever witnessed his own parents or anyone else doing that. I knew that was a sign...but was certain it would work out eventually. He would get used to it. And to his credit he did seem to. However, public display of affection was never allowed...though that didn't keep me from holding his hand or giving him a quick kiss or hug once in awhile in front of other people! :) Edwyn did not like to kiss, but at least he would cuddle, unlike my ex-husband who hated to cuddle. (Definitely some red flags there!) 

We do learn Edwyn is an only child. He founded a Nature Club at his school, but refused to allow other students to join as members, only as "helpers," stating that he couldn't "trust them." Aw...a bit of a control freak? I did chuckle at one of his "early romantic error[s]" when he "gave half an Easter egg each to the two girls in his class who liked him." He believed they would be thrilled, but "they didn't think much of that," and he "went from two girls to no girls!" 

Riley gives us some information regarding Neve's "first love," Michael, though not much. This reminded me somewhat of Dexter and Emma's relationship in One Day by David Nicholls as Neve and Michael were never feeling love for one another at the same time when they reconnected through the years. Unlike Dexter and Emma, Neve and Michael never did end up in a relationship. 

Interestingly, when Neve sees Michael off at King's Cross the last time they're together, she says 
I hunched my shoulders to push through [the streams of people] to the street. (67)
While at the end of the book, Neve and Edwyn walked together,
At Marble Arch, we said goodbye. I stood and watched him go, head down, rushing.
Oxford Street was so crowded. Edwyn hunched his shoulders, braced, dodged, 
and soon enough he disappeared. (166) 
I couldn't help but wonder if this meant he disappeared from Neve altogether, or just until his return. I felt she would be better off without him, though I believe much of her reason for remaining in the relationship was for her own financial security since she was a "writer," though I don't believe she had ever been published. 

Here is the New York Times review and The Guardian review. I believe Stuart Evers in The Guardian captured my reaction to this book moreso than did James Lasden in The New York Times. 
Now for the Literary Wives question: 

What does this book say about wives or about the experience of being a wife?  

Please make sure you read 
the other hosting bloggers' reviews:

Naomi of Consumed by Ink
Kay of whatmeread

It is not as if Neve had an example of a healthy long-term relationship during her childhood.  I still sympathize that Neve has fallen into the same trap as her mother did  with both of her marriages--dealing with an abuser. 

Edwyn makes it Neve's fault, no matter the circumstances:
What makes you think you can treat me like this, hm?
When I'm making the money, I'm paying the bills, I'm making your life possible. (128)
All I could think was--"Are you kidding me?!?" How archaic is that?!? He continues until he finally softens a bit,
You can't help it...I know you can't. Women are sexobsessed. I know it's all they think about. 
It's all they give a fuck about, really. (128)
All Neve can think is "If I [can] just talk him down..." But, of course, Edwyn is using his 'I'm in pain all the time' excuse for his overbearing obnoxious behavior. 

As Edwyn walks away at the end of the book I'm really hoping for Neve's sake that he 1) dies of another heart attack, 2) just never returns, 3) miraculously has a total change of behavior and no longer abuses Neve. 

At one point Edwyn describes how any relationship just goes to "shit" with time. He "blames himself." Neve was just "so sweet" and seemed to "want it so badly." Again...GAG! Ugh! Get over yourself, man! You are not such a great catch! 

But then when Neve returns from visiting her mother Edwyn says to her in bed:
I love you. Little one. Little Neve. I do. 
[Neve's reply]:
I could have been asleep. I let some peaceful seconds pass, before I said it back. I love you. (141)
I kept asking myself throughout this book: Are these few and far between good moments enough to offset all the other frustration dealing with Edwyn's abuse? 

I could particularly appreciate Neve's self-coaching regarding saving money so she could leave when he got nasty and
Stand up for yourself but don't waste your energy. This is your time and your energy. 
Don't try and 'manage' him. Be natural and let him be natural. That's what love is. 
No more cramped feelings, on either side. (146)
Aha! I would agree. I am happy to have found just such a relationship the second time around. We can both be ourselves and still love each other. No need to 'pretend' or 'act' differently than who we are. That, in my opinion, is a "good relationship." But I seriously doubt Neve is ever going to have such freedoms with Edwyn. She will always need to be alert to the need to "manage" him. And I feel sorry for her. Though I can relate to the fact that she does love him and wants it to work. Definitely not a win-win... Though it seems in the end that she begins to carve more time for herself into her life. She starts spending time with friends, etc. That has to be a good thing for her own mental health and well-being, though it would be interesting to know how well Edwyn handles her having a social life that doesn't include him... 

Have you read this book? 
What did you think of this marriage?

Join us on October 1st for An American Marriage by Tayari Jones!
I am really anxious to read this one!

Happy reading!
--Lynn